As an empath, you feel different than everyone else. That is because you are! That is a good thing! Did you ever think that something is wrong, and you just can’t put your finger on what it is? I know I did. I also know it’s not easy to be different. As humans, we have a strong sense of belonging to fit in and be accepted by others. In the eagerness to belong, you lose your identity as a person. You are constantly adapting to what other people needed you to be for them. This leads you to be a people pleaser, not having healthy boundaries, and attracting toxic people in your life. It’s hard for empaths to set boundaries. We don’t want to upset other people by saying no to them. Then we end up spending our days doing for others and no time to do anything we enjoy doing. Can you relate?
You also feel the most comfortable being at home. You probably enjoyed being a stay-at-home Mom. Empaths enjoy caring for others more than making lots of money in the corporate world. To others, that looks like laziness, not being “successful,” or you’re a person with no ambitions or goals. In today’s society, it’s about the hustle and pushing yourself until exhaustion. People don’t understand why you are not caught up in all the crazy like they are!
Every time you try to conform to society’s standards it leaves you feeling overwhelmed and stressed. If you decide to become a business owner, as I did, it only makes it worse. You may find it difficult to be productive, network or market yourself. For me, I took every class, spent lots of money and had tons of training looking for the answer. I chased every bright light out there!
That is life as an empath before you are aware you are one. You are not a problem to fix. Empaths not only feel their emotions, they embed the feelings of others. Once you are aware, you can create systems to protect your emotional and physical well being.
Let others take responsibility for their feelings. In reality, you want to fix them to make yourself feel better. You don’t want them to be angry, because then you will feel upset and angry. You are not responsible for others’ feelings. Let them react any way they want to without trying to fix it.
Set healthy boundaries. You don’t want to say ‘NO’ because they will be upset with you. If they are upset, then you feel upset, You don’t want to feel bad, then you give in to make everyone else happy but yourself. You have the right to say no to anything you don’t want to do. You have to take responsibility for making your happiness. People can’t take advantage of you if you don’t let them.
Your definition of success is the only one that matters. If people want to hustle 24×7 and they think your lazy if you’re not pushing yourself harder has nothing to do with you. It’s all about them. They don’t understand you have a different style and pace then you do, and that’s fine. Let them be who they are, and never feel guilty of being who you are.
Be yourself. You have a choice, you can conform to be like everyone else in society and feel miserable, or you can accept who you are and feel happy. The option is yours.
Being an empath can be challenging at times. It is also a wonderful gift. Once you accept and appreciate this gift, you can then create the joyous life you deserve.
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